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Can I Switch my Caring OFF? by Demachic Can I Switch my Caring OFF? by Demachic
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Simple style tonight, I'm feelin down bout this.

I went ahead and spoke to them but it felt weird. They told me why they were acting like they were, and I didn't do anything wrong - I understand why they were behaving that way but I'm pretty hurt.

It feels like they weren't telling me something, but we ran out of time to speak so I don't even know how to restart the conversation to see what more there was to it.

Shows how much they care, really. I care for them still, otherwise I wouldn't be bothered about it, but I kinda wish I didn't care at all at this stage. :/ I just want to figure it out and make this work but I don't know if they do.

If they don't, that's fine, but if they do I wanna know, otherwise I'll stop investing my time and energy in it.
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:iconthegobo:
TheGobo Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2014
Technically it can,
you just have to be a sociopath :V
Kidding aside, this is really sweet XD
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osagelady Featured By Owner Dec 11, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Perfectly said!!! :heart:
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archivopep Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2013  Professional Interface Designer
I had reached my wits end this helped me get back on my feet miracles really do exist just think of all the possibilities
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Jimera Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Only once the switch is turned off you gotta learn to turn it back on.
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:iconthewendytestaburger:
TheWendyTestaburger Featured By Owner Dec 23, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
You should listen to Turn it Off from Book of Mormon :)
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:iconrocker4evur:
rocker4evur Featured By Owner Dec 7, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
where is the love box?
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AskCrystalAndNeon Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I am sorry for spamming your notifications with faves.
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:iconstealthyninja21:
stealthyninja21 Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2012  Student General Artist
i had this guy i really liked. y'know, "love is blind". recently found out he didnt care much for me. and i got really really sad. it is so weird to be sitting next to someone you really have strong feelings about, but for them to not know it not have any feelings at all about you. :/
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Monipanesiu Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
we can only wish we could do that.. sometimes i feel like i shouldnt care for anyone. cuz im so tired of caring 4 ppl even tho they end up hurting u and then it turns out that u still care 4 them even tho they hurt u.. thats wen it hurts the most. when u realize, ur the only one that still cares. .
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Tayla19 Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
i wish
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SaraSchool Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
This very neatly sums up things I've spent hours thinking about. If only real life were that simple, just imagine how much sadness might this magical switch would have saved everybody. If only :(
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LandingInLondon23 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
Pretty much sounds like something I told my "friend" recently. She is not my friend anymore because it just seemed like she never cared for what I had to say or about me at all. I couldn't stand it anymore and we are falling apart more and more everyday. She may not think so, but in my mind I still hate her. I don't really like to, but I'm keeping the anger towards her in my head anyway.

This is a very strong poem. Great work. It's sad, but I sometimes feel the same way. You'll Never Walk Alone ♥
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xNovenusPrimex Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
... I go through that same feeling with some of my "friends"
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LivelovelifeEleni Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2012  Student General Artist
Seriously, you don't deserve that.
No one does :(
-big hugs-

You can just learn from it and move on <3
You deserve heck of a LOT better friends
<3
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XxLifeStartsNowxX Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
:C I hope you're okay. I know how it feels.
I remember...I helped all of my friends, a year ago or something, always being the 2AM call. Soon as I needed help...BAM! Nobody cared.

:hug: But it helps you learn, that they weren't your true friends, and eventually you will find friends who WILL be there for you

Stay strong C: :hug:
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WindsnapPhotography Featured By Owner Oct 30, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
absolutely right x sometimes you get so wrapped up in your anxieties for other peoples problems that you forget to focus on your own. Then, when it comes to sorting through your own problems, where are they? Loads of people stab you in the back, even after everything you've done for them, so just learn from it and don't bother caring again, I say! :nod:
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Demachic Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:nod::hug:
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WindsnapPhotography Featured By Owner Jan 20, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
:)
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Tomboy14 Featured By Owner Oct 23, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I've been there, it sucks.
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Demachic Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
It does indeed :hug:
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Kliz01 Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I think everyone goes through something similer to this at least once in life, and I believe that everyone has there own way of getting through it. To show that you still care even when she dosen't states that you are a better person and can get through this. If you succeed, then good for you. If not, then she doesn't deserve you.

Remember, you only need those who need you.
Good luck ^_^
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Demachic Featured By Owner Oct 7, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you very much - and you're right too! :hug::heart:
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Kliz01 Featured By Owner Oct 7, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
You are most welcome, my dear. :D
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AnimeOtaku4444 Featured By Owner Oct 1, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Sadly, emotion just isn't that easy to control. Even when my best friend suddenly ditched me because I became confused about my orientation in high school, and she really hurt me... even after all these years, I still care enough to hate her for what she did.
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Demachic Featured By Owner Oct 7, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
That's the thing! If you still use energy to feel some form of emotion toward them, good or bad, you still care, don't you? :( I'm really sorry to hear that that happened to you :cling:
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AnimeOtaku4444 Featured By Owner Oct 7, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
It's true, if the memory of them still gets a strong reaction from you of any kind... It can only mean that you still care, one way or another, whether you like it or not. It sucks, but that's just how it is sometimes.

Thanks for that, but it's okay. I got a new best friend a couple of years later, and we're much closer than I ever was to the first one. Ironically, I heard a few months ago that the first girl had actually confessed to being in love with my new best friend, another girl. Talk about being a hypocrite. O.o
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Dont-Get-Panic Featured By Owner Sep 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Can I share it somewhere else with translation? Really love the idea. :)
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Demachic Featured By Owner Sep 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Sure thing :)
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kukibita Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2012
cool
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:icondemachic:
Demachic Featured By Owner Sep 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you!
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djfj16 Featured By Owner Sep 28, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
pretty much me with people....... except i can turn my caring off for the most part. ;p
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Demachic Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:)
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counselorslug Featured By Owner Sep 28, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
awh...
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Demachic Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:hug:
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counselorslug Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
:iconbrohugplz:
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hamtona Featured By Owner Sep 27, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm feeling like that with one of my friends... Or former friend right now... I wish I could stop loving him but I can't.
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paranoid-potato Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2012
bro, i feel the same way about someone right now. im in pain :(
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Dancing-Dead Featured By Owner Sep 27, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
/siigh. i feel like its always the nice people that get walked all over >:
i can't even count how many times something similar has happened to me
i know its easier said than done, but people like that aren't worth all the emotional stress, best to just move on and let them be. the funniest part is once you get over them they usually come crawling back wondering why you don't pay attention to them anymore
hope things get better for you <3
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Demachic Featured By Owner Oct 7, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
haha, that does happen sometimes, doesn't it!? :giggle: I don't think it would in this case, but I will continue moving on from it :) It can only get better right? :hug: Thank you!
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Blanche-Daisy Featured By Owner Sep 27, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I live the exact same thing right now...aweful feeling. :(
Ps i love the choice of color :)
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Demachic Featured By Owner Oct 7, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm sorry to hear that :( I hope it'll work out alright for you! :hug: Thank you!
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aethervoid Featured By Owner Sep 27, 2012
Exactly what I've been feeling, put absolutely perfectly. Well done. For me I think what made it hard was not wanting to believe a friend would act that way, would be uncaring, and even deliberately hurtful. I kept arguing against the reality of that, since I didn't want it to be true. What helped me a lot was when I stopped being in denial and accepted the truth of the situation. There's a quote by Maya Angelou, "the first time someone shows you who they are, believe them". Well, it took me being shown more than once before I believed, but once I did it made a world of difference. I feel like when people stop caring, and treat me badly, and like in cour case say I didn't do anything wrong, then they're showing me who they are. And personally I'm not interested in people like that. As soon as I realized that they'd shown me who they were, and I believed them, and it wasn't nice at all, in fact mean, it made it a lot easier to deal with.
I hope things turn out ok for you.
You are a wonderful poet.
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Demachic Featured By Owner Oct 7, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
What a perfect comment. :heart: That's it exactly! I didn't want to think they would do something like that to me, with the knowledge or intent that it would hurt me. They must've known on some level that it would - I'm not made of stone after all, haha.

It's been about 2 weeks since the fact and my head has become a lot clearer now. It hurts, but I just kind of accepted that this must be who they are - or who they're willing to be for other people. That quote, "the first time someone shows you who they are, believe them" is very right. I hope that your situation has settled in an better way :) :hug: and thank you so so much, I'm glad you enjoyed and could relate to my work. :) :heart:
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aethervoid Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2012
Thanks, my situation was settled in what I think is the best outcome for me. I am no longer friends with that person, and am not interested in ever rekindling that relationship. It's not a matter of forgiveness, as I do hope to one day forgive her, but that will be for me. If someone only considers other people's feelings when it's convenient for them,then that isn't someone I want in my life. Maybe someday she'll change, but since part of her MO is to claim she has had a realization and has changed but keeps acting the same way. I am not willing to risk being taken in again. As other friends have remembered warning signs they say, I become even more certain I made the right decision. Someone who thinks, "if people let you manipulate them, then why not do it" is going to hurt you eventually. If ever you meet someone who thinks that, run. Run as far and fast as you can.
I am glad your head is clearer now, good for you for managing to accept hard truths. No one wants to believe that people they care for may not care the same for you. Good for you, people are not disposable conveniences, you deserve to be around people who consider your feelings as much as you care for theirs.
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:icon1000yearseternalmaze:
You are always so creative with your poems.:)
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Demachic Featured By Owner Oct 7, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you very much :):heart:
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1000yearseternalmaze Featured By Owner Oct 7, 2012
Thanks for the thanks :)
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