I'm a massage therapist. I was having a conversation with a male client of mine about massage on the beach (It was a freakin' nice day and I was sad to spend it in a room with no windows). He was saying that he wouldn't feel all too comfortable with the exposure of it, but he might do it if the masseuse was as pretty as me. So I got to thinking about how much my appearance effects my business. How much of a difference having good looks has on who comes to see me, and how my skills are viewed, pre and post treatment. I thought about what I would want for a therapist myself. I've always wanted the people helping me to be attractive, whether they be school teachers, surgeons, bankers, whatever. I find it's soothing. And there's no denying that we live in a visually stimulating environment. For heaven's sake, we're an art community! For me, a visually pleasing person is preferable, as long as the skills are just as strong. That leads me to the true thoughts I have about this poll -- I think it might be counterproductive to make people think that they have to choose...I find it fascinating that though you didn't make the distinction, others decided you were talking about what they would prefer in a partner. Personally I thought it was about what qualities we value, regardless of the person those qualities are found in. Or what we wanted the most for ourselves. No one is cheating when they demand more. Everyone deserves the partner that fits them best. Looks matter to children. They will be sensitive if their parents don't think they inherited beautiful genes from their partner. Nor do I think that any option has to be separate from the others. A great personality is enhanced when the jokes someone tells are vibrant and smart. Someone looks prettier when their being kind, etc.
Personality. You have to keep people interested and not be bland. Looks will only go so far until someone realizes nobody's home. Intelligence is very close, but being really intelligent has a tendency to get people lost or have others think you're all mighty. Personality for the win!
I know I'm going to sound horrible for saying this, but at least I'm truthful... I only date men I find attractive. Don't get me wrong, personality and intellect is also important to me, but if I don't feel attracted to the man to begin with then the chances of the relationship going anywhere is nill. ^.^;
FYI: When I say looks I'm also including personal hygine. FYI: When I say personality I mean the ability to get along well with others. FYI: When I say intelligence I mean COMMON SENSE... I know, good luck, eh?